Family drama
One of the biggest life lessons I’ve learned is, ALL family’s have drama. Some are of course, raging infernos and others are small flames with everything in between. Some people air it all on Facebook or Jerry Springer while others do their best to keep it unseen. Even the closest of family's have at least one relationship that has unsaid hurts.
But what about the ones that are so intense it puts distance between two people? Can you have a good death with that nag in your heart? What can be done to heal that?
What I have found is, people put it off because hey don’t like confrontation.
Let’s examine that for a moment. They EXPECT confrontation to be involved if it is addressed. Coming in with that energy immediately puts up a wall that is hard, if not impossible to get through. Can you immediately see the look on someone’s face or feel their presence and automatically get defensive? That’s what Im talking about here. Game over before the first word is even spoken. I’ve seen decades go by and family members don’t even see each other.
In an argument, we always think we are right. We know how WE feel. But what about the other person? Many times we are justified in being angry with a family member. All kinds of sticky situations develop when you are in a family. Sometimes the situation can be worked through and a relationship restored. But sometimes so much damage has been done it cannot be salvaged.
In cases like this, we can at least do our best to find forgiveness. I am not saying if you were abused to forgive and forget and be all warm and fuzzy like it never happened. I’m talking about giving forgiveness for your healings sake. Maybe you will never see that family member again, but you can make peace with the situation within your own self so that the pain and emotion doesn’t keep you from having the peaceful death you deserve. When things are worked through within yourself and things are settled, death is much easier.
Don’t procrastinate with these situations until you're on your deathbed. The sense of urgency makes it even harder to process. Don’t wait until you have very limited time and a mountain of unfinished emotions to work through. You want a clean slate so that when you get to the end of your life it can be spent in the moment with peace in your heart.
I have a very helpful reconciliation and forgiveness practice to bring peace into your life.
Contact me if you would like to learn more.